They don’t tell you how hard it is to believe in yourself
I was reading some of these “so-called” motivation books, even watched some YouTube videos, they all tell you how important it is to set up goals, to work hard, to go all in and do not give up if you fail. They tell you how the greatest minds failed till they made it. They tell you how your mind creates the reality… and other countless motivation phrases (Or clichés?). They tell you that the most important thing is to believe in yourself. But what they never tell you is how hard it is.
How hard is to wake up every morning and convince yourself that your idea is good, how hard it is to convince others. how hard it is to seek for their appreciation and how hard it is to hear them tell you to find a real job. How hard is the fear of failing, the fear of disappointment, of disappointing others. How hard is to go all in, how hard is to keep believing that it will work.
Yes, it is not easy to do your own thing, your own business. It requires a huge portion of faith that sometimes is hard to gather. Every morning, every second there will be fears and hesitations. So, I keep telling myself that I can do it.
If you really believe in your idea, you have to constantly fight with your demons, with your hesitation, try to convince yourself it will work…
Here are some techniques that help me.
– Goals- This is the first and foremost, however people sometimes tend to forget. Goals, specific, defined in time, measurable goals.
– Why am I doing it- What is the purpose? And here I mean two kinds of purpose: what is called “the why” questions.
First, why my idea will contribute to someone?
Second, why you are doing It for yourself?
Yes, no judgmental here, it can be money, but the problem with “money purpose” is that it is not strong enough. Money can be achieved in any type of work and when you open a new business, at least for the beginning, it is more spending than earning, which can cause a fear of ending up losing time and money.
You can use the first why here, however, unless you are a complete philanthropist it will be hard to use only the external reason to keep you moving.
So, what do I mean by “the purpose to yourself” you need to understand that this is the only way and it is worth everything! In order to emphasize it, I will use my own example I feel that I cannot settle for average, that I have to do something big in my life, and if I will not take the risk and do it now I will regret it all my life.
– How I am doing it. To dream is not enough, the way for your dream to come true should be written, professionally.
– Keep working all the time. If you decide to go on your own, make your own business, make your dream come true, you need to understand that there is no more “work time” and “pleasure time”. It’s your business, you always have something to do for it. But the beautiful thing about it is that every time you hesitate or feel scared, just start working- This is your fear’s best remedy!